As I process the loss of my friend, former procrastinators, I shared last week that even in grief, I need to say “yes” to the Lord. It helps me to name and face the things I spoke of last week. (Even in Loss – Say “Yes” to God) It helps clear the resistance that clouds my thoughts and obscures my steps.
I don’t know the depth of your loss or pain. I don’t imply there’s an easy solution. But certainly, the Lord will meet you where you are with comfort and guidance.
He’s guiding me to see some things I need to consciously say “no” to. Some things that come to us naturally in a time of loss can harm us if we let them take hold in our lives. Our loved ones would not want that for us. Our God loves us even more, and He directs us to be alert and say “no.” The sooner we do so, the sooner we walk on a healing path.
So far, I realize I must say “no” to:
Doubt. Did God make a mistake? Does He not care? Am I supposed to stop growing in the areas where my friend was a unique help? “No” to all those. God is still working in love and faithfulness in my life. I begin to look for His larger vision.
Bitterness and resentment. These invite the enemy into our lives. If I hold God responsible for “wronging” me, I close Him out when I need Him most. He is working this for good in my life. (Romans 8:28)
Despair. I do not grieve as one who has no hope. (I Thessalonians 4:13-14) I should grieve but not wallow in self-pity. Not only will I see Mary in heaven with Jesus, but because the Lord will fulfill His purpose for me (Psalm 138:8), I have much to look forward to here.
End of dreams, hopes, plans. The door to time with my friend who passed away has closed. That is a keen disappointment. But God Himself was the aim of such times, the focus of our friendship. Perhaps He wants to refine my dreams, hopes, plans. If He gave them, He is still at work regarding them. It’s not all over.
Refuse to cling to what’s harmful. There’s more good to come.
Regarding loss, what has crept into your life that you should say “no” to?