As we move to a new location and situation, former procrastinators, I take note of my dad’s example in his final year. When his health was failing and decisions about his care and where to live could not be put off, he showed us children how to move forward into a new era.
We sat at the dining room table and looked at the options. We asked him what he wanted to do. Then my dad – who was still sharp as a tack – responded, “I think you three should decide what I should do. I know what I want, but I may not make the best decision.” Wow! He recognized there were considerations he might not weigh properly. I hope to be so gracious.
He wanted to stay in his home. We wanted that for him. We agreed to take that route until it was no longer possible. God blessed us with good helpers. My brother who lived nearby took on the lion’s share of daily visits and oversight. Another brother drove there weekly, and I traveled monthly to stay with him. We were a team with my local brother carrying the biggest load.
Of course, there were difficult times. But Daddy still gave good to us and those around him. He constantly expressed gratitude. In spite of the help, he still thought for himself. He was cheerful and respected the input of others. He was willing to learn. His sense of humor had us laughing until the night he went to heaven.
My husband and I are many years away from being in the same spot as my dad. Yet his example speaks to me now. Our dad did not fight the need to change. He accepted that. Instead, he fought resentment, ingratitude, and stubbornness. Those were weights he knew he should not carry. Things were not as he’d have liked with his body or circumstances; yet he continued to move forward with a positive outlook and joy.
Thank you, Daddy, for your example! Happy Father’s Day, everybody!
What positive characteristics in your dad can you thank him and God for?